Toenail Polish

Wow. Who is Dr. Ablow, the ‘doctor’ who  spouted about the J. Crew boy needing psychotherapy in later years? Apparently, the good doctor never had to read Piaget or any other well known source of child psychology. And even throughout the years of shifting child theories, it’s been my observation as a parent that young kids don’t care about gender markers until they start observing adult society in which the adults care.

Rosa was fond and still is fond of boy stuff, like Spiderman, Darth Vader. Up until other older girls told her things like, “Pretty girls wear dresses and like pink”, my little tomboy had no interest in either. This was an actual quote, which sent Adam and I through the ceiling. And I imagine that these fluffy pink taffeta girls probably got their view from their parents. It seems to me that parents, particularly helicopter parents and disallusioned conservative ‘doctors’ are the ones who make insanity of it, and determine whether our kids are going to need psychotherapy when they get older, by creating a culture of villainization for people who don’t match their tastes.

Speaking of villains, Rosa still loves pretending to be various villains. I swear that kid has an eidetic memory. She loves to spout movie or TV lines, and then waits expectantly for me to recite another part. I can never remember them, so she rolls her eyes and winds up playing both parts back and forth, a one-girl show. And fortunately, there are some good juicy female villains for her to play, like Princess Azula from Airbender, one of her current favorites. 

But her creativity and pizazz, and Beckett’s (J. Crew boy) flair seem expressions of the healthy emotional freedom that most sane adults recall and complain we don’t have anymore. In addition to being petty and distracting people from real issues like the disappearing dollars for actual education of kids, outrage at a boy wearing pink nail polish seems sadistic and indicative of the need to constrain other people to make up for their own restricted lives. Misery loves company, and people who can’t find it, create it.


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